Ken Blackman is a former Apple engineer turned Relationship Mindset Coach and sex and intimacy educator.
For over 25 years, heโs been helping couples co-create thriving, fulfilling partnerships and, as he puts it, a โgourmet love life.โ
Kenโs work has been featured in outlets like Business Insider, Playboy, and Cosmopolitan, and heโs a regular contributor to The Good Men Project, Better Humans, and more.

Heโs known for his practical, no-nonsense approach to topics like intimacy, jealousy, emotional dynamics, and breaking outdated models of relationships.
Having spoken about our struggles as a couple who is grieving, this conversation was timely.
Our Conversation with Ken Blackman
We had a blast chatting with Ken. In this episode, Ken explains why some relationships feel like โwork,โ how to cultivate an enduring spark in your sex life, and why he believes compromise isnโt all itโs cracked up to be.
If youโre curious about transforming your love life from draining to fulfilling, youโll want to listen!
Episode Highlights
- Kenโs Unlikely Journey
โ How he went from tech genius to champion of relationship health
โ The turning point that led him to help couples get more than they give - Work vs. Flow
โ Why do some couples constantly butt heads while others seem effortless?
โ Tips for shifting out of โwork modeโ and into a supportive partnership - No Need for Compromise?
โ Ken explains why compromise isnโt always the golden ticket
โ How mutual gain might be a better goal than meeting in the middle - Jealousy: Friend or Foe?
โ Ways to figure out if jealousy springs from envy, insecurity, or possessiveness
โ Strategies to handle it in a healthy, constructive way - Better Sex Over Time
โ Kenโs advice for keeping intimacy spicy (without feeling forced)
โ Why a โgourmet love lifeโ should be on everyoneโs menu

Episode Resources
We loved hearing Kenโs take on how relationships can be a source of constant growth rather than an endless series of compromises.
If youโre dealing with jealousy, looking to enhance intimacy, or just want to know how to stop your partnership from feeling like a chore, this episode is for you.
Thanks for tuning in, and donโt forget to subscribe for more fresh perspectives on living fully!